The Rebellion of... A Blog About Breaking Norms and Finding Your Inner Rebellion
- Oct 28
- 4 min read
“Don’t rock the boat!”
How many times and in how many different ways are we told to conform? How pervasive is society’s message to maintain the comfort of others while quietly suppressing our own discomfort? How many norms are created and enforced to perpetuate Money Culture, keeping a few at the top and everyone else struggling below?
“You have to go along to get along.”
From the time we’re born, we’re told to be quiet, to play nice, to prioritize the needs and wants and emotions of others over ourselves. The message begins as our first infant cries are shushed. Happy babies are good babies.
Easy babies become easy children who become easy adults, plodding along the preferred pipeline of passivity. We are praised for being likeable, popular, and agreeable. The squeaky wheel? They’re difficult, troublemakers, or “problem children”. You don’t want to be like them.
“Don’t step out of line.”
For too many, people-pleasing is not simply about being liked; it is necessary to their survival. Being quiet and accommodating keeps you employed, fed, housed, and out of trouble. If you are in an abusive environment, it likely keeps you safe… or at least temporarily safer.
It’s hard to break out of that mindset. How do you allow yourself to be prioritized and trust you won’t be punished for it? How do you say “no” to the norms and say “yes” to rebellion?
“Know your place.”
Even though laws have changed and now offer protections against discrimination, their enforcement is spotty at best. The onus is on the party that has allegedly been discriminated against to seek justice and prove wrongdoing. That takes a LOT of resources, which folks too often don’t have.
Some may not even know these legal protections exist and if they do, how do you pursue them? Just because laws exist on paper, that does not mean they exist in practice. In too many places, change never really took root.
It’s time all of that patriarchal bullshit came crashing to the ground, but how?
You may think you know what patriarchy looks like - pale, male, and financially hale. Think again. Patriarchy is a pattern and a practice, not a single person. We know who benefits the most from it, and if you need a refresher, just watch the news.
However, you might be surprised to learn who does its bidding, providing either direct or ancillary support to the oppression of far too many. Providing support to the oppression of themselves and their perceived communities. Sometimes the call is truly coming from the house, so how do we disrupt that?
It’s time that we all found our inner rebellion.
Welcome to "The Rebellion of..." a blog about breaking norms, challenging the status quo, and finding your inner rebellion. Yes, that can seem scary, even in the best of times. These are absolutely not the best of time, but nor are they the worst. At least, not yet. We have more power than they want us to realize.
I’ve never fit into the box society created and for the longest time, I thought was a bad thing. I didn’t follow conventional paths or “live up to my potential,” whatever the fuck that was supposed to be, and I often paid the price. Abusive relationships. Shitty jobs for even shittier pay. Stress, sickness, fatigue, and defeat. The same pattern was on repeat, and I couldn't find the stop button until the whole world stopped in 2020.
I realized that my so-called “potential” was what other people wanted me to be so they could benefit from access to my resources. So they could benefit from access to me as a resource. It was a pattern that had played out time and again with family, friends, coworkers, and partners. The only person who didn’t benefit from that access to me was me.
In fact, it was killing me. Literally. I was falling apart and when I asked for help, I was told, "You don't need help. You're strong - you'll figure it out!" That's code for, "Fuck you, not my problem!"
Over the past few years, I’ve torn that all down and evicted nearly everyone I’ve ever known right along with the rubble. Like the Tower in tarot, the foundation I had was unstable and could not support the life that I wanted to build for myself. So, I erected the safety fence, set the metaphysical dynamite, and blew that world to pieces. It was time to embrace not just experiencing the change that comes with Tower, but to embrace being the Tower.
Through all of that chaos, I found clarity: I didn’t come here just to rock the boat. I came here to capsize that motherfucker and see who sinks and who swims. The discomfort I’ve felt my whole life was there because I wasn’t supposed to fit into society’s box of conformity. It was time to stop trying.
Not everyone can handle that Tower energy or embody it themselves. That’s fine because I definitely didn’t come here to be liked. I came here to change the status quo. To break norms. To disrupt Money Culture. To lead by example so those who feel helpless can see there is hope.
I came here to rebel in ways large and small, flipping the script and the bird at those who have been too comfortable for too long, but the work is not solely on my shoulders. As Pluto transits Aquarius over the next 20 years, the entire collective will undergo transformation. We are being asked to redefine what it means to be in community; what it means to be a global citizen. We are called to examine our relationship to democracy, freedom, money, power, structure, and innovation.
We are in a time of rebellion, individually and collectively, as the Tower crumbles around us. Where that chaos takes us remains to be seen, but one thing is for certain: the old ways are over. We have the opportunity to reclaim our power and write our next chapter.
I look forward to you joining us on this journey, finding your own inner rebellion along the way. May the winds of change be ever at our backs, driving us forward with unstoppable momentum.
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