I realized my so-called “potential” was what other people wanted me to be so they could benefit from access to my resources. So they could benefit from access to me as a resource. It was a pattern that had played out time and again with family, friends, coworkers, and partners. The only person who didn’t benefit from that access to me was me. Like the Tower in tarot, the foundation I had was unstable and could not support the life that I wanted to build for myself, so I tore